Rhonda Audia

I am starting a campaign here and now for the "Truth in Relationships Act," whereby every relationship "expert" must pledge to include this public service warning: "EVERY COUPLE WILL HAVE DUMB FIGHTS!" I am deadly serious about this. I've had it with people who say that the way to a happy relationship is to eliminate the conflict. I've had it with TV ads for certain online dating services that show a deliriously happy couple scientifically matched to make sure they are so-o-o compatible.

Here's the true chemistry of a relationship. One partner is oil. The other partner is water. You can put them together but they will never completely mix. Conflict is normal.Conflict is sometimes necessary. Conflict is an opportunity to strengthen your bond.

Think of me as your Dumb Fight Specialist. Couples get lost, then couples get stuck. I provide couples with a relationship "road map" so that they can get back on track. Learn the tools to Regulate, Reveal, Re-synch, and Repair. Conflict is unavoidable, but Dumb Fights are optional - if you learn to Fight Smart.