Marriage Counseling Therapists in Loma Linda, CA

Trained at Loma Linda University licensed as Marital and Family Therapist and Ordained as Minister, I have experience working in both outpatient and inpatient settings with youth and adults dealing with a variety of mental health issues. Licensed in California, with over 13 years of experience I specialize in treatment for Anxiety, Depression, Medical professionals' mental health, Premarital counseling, Spirituality & religion based issues.

As an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, this opportunity has given me an understanding of how to provide psychoeducation, psychotherapy as well as trauma-informed systemic approaches to helping others make positive changes in their lives for a better future in the state of California and Washington St. It is my goal to help my clients gain the tools they need to flourish, and I can provide whatever is needed to help my patients and clients grow. I use CBT and DBT as my primary psychotherapy tools, as well as a systemic approach that involves the use of Genograms so that a family or the patient can gain a deeper understanding.

I believe a problem is a solution waiting to be found. I have 25 years experience seeing adults, children, teenagers, couples, and families. I've worked as a Family Court Mediator, and director of Student Counseling, Loma Linda University. My focus areas: 1.)panic attacks/anxiety disorders 2.) depression 3.) eating disorders 4.) divorce recovery 5.) adults and children from abusive/ alcoholic childhoods 6.) Christian counseling 7.) relationship issues (marital, divorce). I help clients change negative thinking, raise their self-esteem, and learn to achieve their goals. I work with clients to understand their destructive behavior and poor choices and change them

Tired of the status quo? Stuck in a rut in your relationships, wellness, business, intimacy, or spirituality? I help align all parts of your life with your true authentic self. Together, we’ll secure genuine change through acceptance first. I'm Dr. Tom, and I'm licensed for independent practice as a Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist in California (LMFT 111604), the District of Columbia (LMFT200001211), and Maryland (LCMFT, LCM754), and am a professional coach across the U.S. I have provided therapy to individuals and families since 2007. I'm also happily married for over 15 years, and we have 2 young boys.

Welcome! I am a licensed marriage and family therapist practicing narrative therapy in California. I am committed to providing anti-racist, gender-affirming, respectful care to each person with whom I meet; and to help each person discover and remember the abilities they have, which can help them move through life despite the obstacles they may encounter. I am passionate about standing alongside the individuals, couples, and families I collaborate with against the problems that show up in their lives.

In this journey of life, we may be confronted with situations that challenge our personal growth and relationships with others. However, we do not have to go through this process alone. As an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, my goal is to assist individuals, couples, and families as they learn and grow in this ever-changing world. My hope is that together we can identify strategies that work best for your situation and build upon strengths that can support your progress.

We as human beings are impacted by the experiences of our lives even from before birth to present. Sometimes, some of these experiences are so destructive that make us feel trapped, without knowing what to do. In turn, these feelings negatively alter the way we relate to others and ourselves and produce symptoms of depression; anxiety; insecurity; panic attacks; and compulsive, controlling, aggressive or abusive behaviors. All these symptoms are defensive reactions and indicative that something, deep inside us is not well and that we need help.

What's standing in the way of you having a healthy relationship? Relationships are challenging. Finding one and maintaining a healthy one can feel even tougher. Whether we didn’t learn the skills to do so or our past hurts are getting in the way, we often find ourselves stuck or unsure how to form lasting and meaningful relationships. Let’s work together to uncover unconscious beliefs holding you back and heal past traumas impacting your ability to love yourself and be content in your relationships. Together we can discover effective ways to express your inner most feelings, unmet needs, and rekindle love.

We are a small group practice that prioritizes whole person care and believes that a positive therapeutic relationship is the most important factor in your healing process. Some of our specialty areas include therapy for: OCD and related anxiety disorders; trauma/ PTSD; child and adolescent mental health; women's issues; and family or other relationship issues.

It takes courage, strength, and commitment to want to improve your life and follow through with your vision. Whether you want to make behavioral, emotional, spiritual, interpersonal, or health related changes, I will help you explore the issues in depth. I want to hear and understand the context of your story. I will bring passion to our interactions and provide you with honest feedback. I will support you in finding meaning in your struggle and create an open atmosphere where you can look at all of your options as you decide how to take the next steps in your life journey.

Choosing to get help is a sometimes difficult and courageous decision, especially in these difficult times. As of March 2020, I have begun doing telehealth. I will try to help you to feel as comfortable as possible from our first contact. I know that the biggest compliment I can receive is to be told how “real” clients find me to be, and how understood they feel. I have been in practice in Redlands for more than 25 years, and I utilize various techniques, tailoring my interventions to meet the client’s needs. I believe that it is the relationship between the client and therapist that has the most to do with growth.

If you need help now, I am here for you and will offer relief of painful symptoms. My clinical focus is on personal growth, challenges with anxiety and depression and spiritual questioning. I have a proven method for finding the root of every life challenge. The goal for all my clients is for each and every one of them to obtain total peace and clarity for themselves. My therapeutic approach is non-judgmental, open and honest. I also offer Neurofeedback therapy that will help reduce symptoms of anxiety and ADHD/ADD. Request a free assessment to determine if Neurofeedback is right for you. In-person or virtual therapy offered.

"Out beyond ideas of wrong doing and right doing there is a field. I'll meet you there." Rumi. The heart of my work is to assist you to live an emotionally authentic life in relationship to yourself and others. In the process of discovering your true self you will learn how certain emotions, behaviors and beliefs have affected your life and your relationships and you will become empowered to make important changes. My style is warm, and non-judgmental at the same time I am direct and confrontive.

Are you feeling challenged by life's circumstances? Do you have the desire to change things in your life, but just not sure how or where to begin? Sometimes people feel stuck in situations, and are unable to see a way out. It does not have to stay that way. I truly believe that change is always possible, if we have the right tools. I am dedicated to working with you toward finding a path to creating the life that you want. No matter the situation, today can be the first step toward a better tomorrow.

You’ve overcome a lot, and yet are having a tough time containing the feelings, thoughts, and physical sensations this time. It’s spilling out into your personal and professional relationships and moving you further away from the life you imagined for yourself. You've reached your maximum bandwidth and before you know it, old patterns creep back in. The confidence that you'll be okay slips away with each day. You're realizing you need support to not only heal and accept what is, but also to transform and be able to grow through this!

As a therapist, the heart of my work is to help you create healthy, more fulfilling relationships. Because we are relational beings, our lives are profoundly influenced by the quality of our relationships. At times, we may need to repair a broken relationship, let go of a harmful relationship, or manage a problematic relationship in a healthier way. I come alongside couples, families, and individuals to bring health and healing to relationships with key people in their lives - spouses, parents, children, friends, work colleagues, or even your relationship to yourself.

I am a generalist who works with adult clients on a variety of different issues including depression, insomnia, anxiety and panic, PTSD, anger, relationships, parenting, and many other concerns. I also conduct bariatric and spinal cord stimulator pre-surgical evaluations.

I specialize in helping people of all ages navigate challenges and make changes in their relationships: the relationship with a spouse or partner, the relationship with children or parents, the relationships with extended family or friends, the relationship with loss, trauma, anxiety, depression, substances and most often, the relationship with oneself. For over 25 years I've had the privilege of helping people create a more meaningful life for themselves.

If you are trying to understand why things keep happening, how to break a vicious cycle in your life, or you are just feeling stuck and need to feel heard and help with moving forward- we can help. We help many people who struggle with trauma, depression, anxiety, stress, family issues, and career/ work related issues move forward and find relief from their symptoms through therapy. Here we provide processing, guidance and direction that lead to your growth and healing as we work with adults, teens and couples.