Couples Counseling Therapists in Reston, VA

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Lawrence Uman
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC , LMFT, RYT-500
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20190  (Online Only)
I am a therapist with over 30 years experience helping couples and individuals feel better and achieve their goals. I have trained in solution oriented therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy and have a practical approach to helping adults, couples and children with relationship concerns, anxiety, addictions, depression, and career questions. I am also a certified yoga teacher and when clients are interested, I use Yoga techniques ,breathwork and meditation to help calm the mind. Confidentiality strictly protected. Please call me at 703 868-5947 or email me at lawrenceuman@gmail.com and I will be happy to discuss your individual concerns and questions.
I am a therapist with over 30 years experience helping couples and individuals feel better and achieve their goals. I have trained in solution oriented therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy and have a practical approach to helping adults, couples and children with relationship concerns, anxiety, addictions, depression, and career questions. I am also a certified yoga teacher and when clients are interested, I use Yoga techniques ,breathwork and meditation to help calm the mind. Confidentiality strictly protected. Please call me at 703 868-5947 or email me at lawrenceuman@gmail.com and I will be happy to discuss your individual concerns and questions.
(571) 601-2434 View (571) 601-2434
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Patrick Nisco
Psychologist, PhD, LCP
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20191
Nisco has over 20 years' experience working with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families addressing concerns of ADHD, learning disorders, developmental disorders, Autism and Asperger's, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, personality disorders, addictions, sexual abuse, trauma, anger and stress management, and legal issues.
Dr. Nisco received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Pacific Graduate School of Psychology in consortium with Stanford University in Palo Alto, California, and obtained his Masters in Clinical Psychology and Bachelors in Psychology from Loyola College. He has trained at Spring Grove Hospital Center in Catonsville, MD, Patuxent Institution minimal security prison in Sykesville, MD, National Center for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in Menlo Park, CA, and Veterans Hospitals in Palo Alto, CA and Baltimore, MD. He has also been on staff at various community outpatient mental health centers.
Nisco has over 20 years' experience working with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families addressing concerns of ADHD, learning disorders, developmental disorders, Autism and Asperger's, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, personality disorders, addictions, sexual abuse, trauma, anger and stress management, and legal issues.
Dr. Nisco received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Pacific Graduate School of Psychology in consortium with Stanford University in Palo Alto, California, and obtained his Masters in Clinical Psychology and Bachelors in Psychology from Loyola College. He has trained at Spring Grove Hospital Center in Catonsville, MD, Patuxent Institution minimal security prison in Sykesville, MD, National Center for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) in Menlo Park, CA, and Veterans Hospitals in Palo Alto, CA and Baltimore, MD. He has also been on staff at various community outpatient mental health centers.
(703) 596-8238 View (703) 596-8238
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Mindful One LLC
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20192
We all need help at times to understand our feelings. Mindfulness-based therapy facilitates awareness, insight and the ability to plow into inner wisdom to heal self and reach one's full potential. Mindfulness experience increases an inner peace that remains present through life's challenges. The ability to facilitate change requires first acceptance of feelings, and thoughts. Mindfulness and compassion then facilitates change and new behaviors begin to emerge. The benefits include no longer being afraid, angry or anxious, life-skills improve resulting in a better understanding of goals and values and thus growth as an individual.
We all need help at times to understand our feelings. Mindfulness-based therapy facilitates awareness, insight and the ability to plow into inner wisdom to heal self and reach one's full potential. Mindfulness experience increases an inner peace that remains present through life's challenges. The ability to facilitate change requires first acceptance of feelings, and thoughts. Mindfulness and compassion then facilitates change and new behaviors begin to emerge. The benefits include no longer being afraid, angry or anxious, life-skills improve resulting in a better understanding of goals and values and thus growth as an individual.
(703) 596-8316 View (703) 596-8316
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Javeria Muneer
Pre-Licensed Professional, MSW
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20190
​I have been counseling and supporting individuals and families from diverse and neurodiverse backgrounds for over nine years. My passion is helping clients navigate their unique challenges with empathy and cultural humility. I provide holistic, person-centered care, tailoring interventions to address specific challenges and strengths and aim to create a supportive environment that promotes empowerment, growth, and well-being. If you're seeking support, and guidance in a non-judgmental space to explore your concerns, I would be honored to work with you on your journey toward healing and self-discovery.
​I have been counseling and supporting individuals and families from diverse and neurodiverse backgrounds for over nine years. My passion is helping clients navigate their unique challenges with empathy and cultural humility. I provide holistic, person-centered care, tailoring interventions to address specific challenges and strengths and aim to create a supportive environment that promotes empowerment, growth, and well-being. If you're seeking support, and guidance in a non-judgmental space to explore your concerns, I would be honored to work with you on your journey toward healing and self-discovery.
(703) 775-4386 View (703) 775-4386
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Nichole H Aiken
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC , CSAT, CPTT-C
Not Verified Not Verified
Reston, VA 20190
Areas of Specilaity: Trauma Work, Life Transitions, Couples and Family Work, Addictions;Sexual Addiction;Love Addiction, Partners of Sex Addicts,OCD/Anxiety,Sexual Anorexia,Codependency, Affair Recovery; Brainspotting.
I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and a CPTT candidate. My focus is primarily on encouraging the relational healing and post-traumatic growth of relationally betrayed partners. I also work with those that have been impacted by sexual compulsive behavior. Through my training in Brainspotting I help people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences or relational trauma. My therapeutic style is compassionate, warm, and I am described as empathetic in my work. Your work with me will be both confidential and respectful. It would be an honor to work with you.
Areas of Specilaity: Trauma Work, Life Transitions, Couples and Family Work, Addictions;Sexual Addiction;Love Addiction, Partners of Sex Addicts,OCD/Anxiety,Sexual Anorexia,Codependency, Affair Recovery; Brainspotting.
I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and a CPTT candidate. My focus is primarily on encouraging the relational healing and post-traumatic growth of relationally betrayed partners. I also work with those that have been impacted by sexual compulsive behavior. Through my training in Brainspotting I help people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences or relational trauma. My therapeutic style is compassionate, warm, and I am described as empathetic in my work. Your work with me will be both confidential and respectful. It would be an honor to work with you.
(571) 570-3015 View (571) 570-3015
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Andrea Anderson Polk
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, NCC, MA
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20191
As a lifelong resident of Northern Virginia, I have been serving the mental health needs of McLean for nearly 20 years. Have you tried everything and continue to remain stuck? Whether you are struggling with imposter syndrome, stress + overwhelm, persistent anxiety, or a chronic feeling of emptiness that something is missing in your life - it is time for a breakthrough! My therapeutic approach is specifically tailored to the client based upon their unique life story. Please visit my website, www.andreaandersonpolk.com for further information.
As a lifelong resident of Northern Virginia, I have been serving the mental health needs of McLean for nearly 20 years. Have you tried everything and continue to remain stuck? Whether you are struggling with imposter syndrome, stress + overwhelm, persistent anxiety, or a chronic feeling of emptiness that something is missing in your life - it is time for a breakthrough! My therapeutic approach is specifically tailored to the client based upon their unique life story. Please visit my website, www.andreaandersonpolk.com for further information.
(571) 200-8998 View (571) 200-8998
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Darren C Brennan
Psychologist, PsyD, CSOTP
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20191
I also offer therapy for couples using Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), which is a groundbreaking approach that helps clients create a foundation of safety, intimacy, and trust.
Seeking relief from anxiety or depression? Struggling with ADHD? Seeking a forensic assessment, educational or disability testing for accommodations at school or work? I can help. I have 20+ years of clinical experience to working with teens and adults. I use research-proven methods of therapy that will enhance your mood and quality of life. I also provide psychoeducational testing for ADHD, emotional and learning disabilities (ED/LD), and Autism Spectrum (ASD). My forensic services include assessments for risk assessment, mitigation reports, and parental capacity evaluations. I can also provide expert testimony by retainer.
I also offer therapy for couples using Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), which is a groundbreaking approach that helps clients create a foundation of safety, intimacy, and trust.
Seeking relief from anxiety or depression? Struggling with ADHD? Seeking a forensic assessment, educational or disability testing for accommodations at school or work? I can help. I have 20+ years of clinical experience to working with teens and adults. I use research-proven methods of therapy that will enhance your mood and quality of life. I also provide psychoeducational testing for ADHD, emotional and learning disabilities (ED/LD), and Autism Spectrum (ASD). My forensic services include assessments for risk assessment, mitigation reports, and parental capacity evaluations. I can also provide expert testimony by retainer.
(703) 596-8350 View (703) 596-8350
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Stuart Andrews
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20191
Harvard-trained psychologist with 25 years of of experience in helping individuals and couples. I specialize in Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) and the PACT model for couples. I enjoy helping people who may have had several psychotherapy or medication trials, but have not found lasting relief from symptoms. I am Core Faculty of the ISTDP Program at the Washington School for Psychiatry and former Clinical Instructor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Authored "Treating Affect Phobia: A Manual for Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy" (Guilford Press), and published numerous articles on psychotherapy.
Harvard-trained psychologist with 25 years of of experience in helping individuals and couples. I specialize in Intensive Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP) and the PACT model for couples. I enjoy helping people who may have had several psychotherapy or medication trials, but have not found lasting relief from symptoms. I am Core Faculty of the ISTDP Program at the Washington School for Psychiatry and former Clinical Instructor in Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. Authored "Treating Affect Phobia: A Manual for Short-term Dynamic Psychotherapy" (Guilford Press), and published numerous articles on psychotherapy.
(703) 691-5631 View (703) 691-5631
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Tova Jacobs
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20191
Maybe you are struggling, depressed, unfulfilled, scared, angry, anxious, tired, or overwhelmed. I welcome and accept all the parts of you that you need to bring to therapy. My work is grounded in the belief that relationships are foundational in life and people benefit from authentic connection. I work with individuals, couples and groups to find more meaningful connection, heal past and current wounds, embrace your strengths and stay more deeply attuned to your desires and needs. I use our relationship as a guide to understanding your outside world.
Maybe you are struggling, depressed, unfulfilled, scared, angry, anxious, tired, or overwhelmed. I welcome and accept all the parts of you that you need to bring to therapy. My work is grounded in the belief that relationships are foundational in life and people benefit from authentic connection. I work with individuals, couples and groups to find more meaningful connection, heal past and current wounds, embrace your strengths and stay more deeply attuned to your desires and needs. I use our relationship as a guide to understanding your outside world.
(703) 997-7686 View (703) 997-7686
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Dr. Xavier Bonilla
Licensed Professional Counselor, PsyD, LCPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20190
I have been working in this field for over 15 years. I have a wide range of experience working with various populations that have different challenges. I am experienced in individual as well as couples counseling and am licensed in VA, DC and MD. I treat ages 16 and up.
I have been working in this field for over 15 years. I have a wide range of experience working with various populations that have different challenges. I am experienced in individual as well as couples counseling and am licensed in VA, DC and MD. I treat ages 16 and up.
(571) 570-9975 View (571) 570-9975
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Kathleen Christian
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20190  (Online Only)
Accepting New Clients- My approach follows the needs and goals of my clients. I begin by making sure I understand how my clients think and their personal history. I apply a variety of approaches to help people understand themselves, their relationships with others, and their goals for the future. Perhaps the most important aspect of my approach is to understand your point of view and to integrate it to provide an effective intervention strategy. Life brings all kinds of challenges- depression, irritability, anxiety, and even physical symptoms are some of the ways that they can express themselves.
Accepting New Clients- My approach follows the needs and goals of my clients. I begin by making sure I understand how my clients think and their personal history. I apply a variety of approaches to help people understand themselves, their relationships with others, and their goals for the future. Perhaps the most important aspect of my approach is to understand your point of view and to integrate it to provide an effective intervention strategy. Life brings all kinds of challenges- depression, irritability, anxiety, and even physical symptoms are some of the ways that they can express themselves.
(571) 999-6869 View (571) 999-6869
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John M Morrow
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20191
I am a clinical psychologist who has been in practice for over 40 years. I primarily use a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy model and work with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, and a wide range of life issues. I am happy to talk with you by phone and answer any questions that you may have.
I am a clinical psychologist who has been in practice for over 40 years. I primarily use a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy model and work with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, and a wide range of life issues. I am happy to talk with you by phone and answer any questions that you may have.
(571) 200-3003 View (571) 200-3003
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Patrick K Moon
Psychologist, PsyD, MDiv
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20190
I work with marital, couples, families and individual adults with interpersonal/intrapersonal conflict resulting in anger, anxiety, depression and grief.
I think the Beatle, Sir Paul McCartney sang it best, "I get by with a little help from my friends". All the interconnections with people, good or bad, have profoundly impacted who we are; the therapeutic relationship is another profound crossing of paths where deep calls to deep, and a little help on the journey is sacred. I work from a dynamic view of personhood and explore the interconnections of mind, body and soul. There is a profound dynamic in the therapeutic process, finding a therapist where one can feel connected to is essential to personal change through an authentic, vulnerable relationship.
I work with marital, couples, families and individual adults with interpersonal/intrapersonal conflict resulting in anger, anxiety, depression and grief.
I think the Beatle, Sir Paul McCartney sang it best, "I get by with a little help from my friends". All the interconnections with people, good or bad, have profoundly impacted who we are; the therapeutic relationship is another profound crossing of paths where deep calls to deep, and a little help on the journey is sacred. I work from a dynamic view of personhood and explore the interconnections of mind, body and soul. There is a profound dynamic in the therapeutic process, finding a therapist where one can feel connected to is essential to personal change through an authentic, vulnerable relationship.
(626) 587-3010 View (626) 587-3010
Photo of Karen P Orem, Licensed Professional Counselor in Reston, VA
Karen P Orem
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MAC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20190
I utilize a variety of treatment modalities to treat PTSD, trauma & loss, depression, anxiety & phobias; couples/family therapy; substance abuse recovery work; communications strategies for success; and career counseling & coaching.
You will be offered a safe and respectful environment in which to share your unique experiences. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) will help you change your thoughts, change your life! This is absolutely true, yet sometimes you might experience trying to think yourself into feeling better and it's simply not working. Your life looks complete, or almost, but you can't feel it. You are frustrated that your thoughts and feelings are not in agreement. At a thinking level, you know you didn't cause what happened, yet still feel like it's your fault and this keeps you stuck.
I utilize a variety of treatment modalities to treat PTSD, trauma & loss, depression, anxiety & phobias; couples/family therapy; substance abuse recovery work; communications strategies for success; and career counseling & coaching.
You will be offered a safe and respectful environment in which to share your unique experiences. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) will help you change your thoughts, change your life! This is absolutely true, yet sometimes you might experience trying to think yourself into feeling better and it's simply not working. Your life looks complete, or almost, but you can't feel it. You are frustrated that your thoughts and feelings are not in agreement. At a thinking level, you know you didn't cause what happened, yet still feel like it's your fault and this keeps you stuck.
(540) 724-1936 View (540) 724-1936
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Ian Masson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20190
I have come to see relationship as a key factor in helping clients to flourish. Whether that is a child growing in relationship with their parents and peers through play therapy, couples and family members developing greater love and understanding for each other, or even an individual cultivating a healthy relationship with their own thoughts and feelings I seek to cultivate an attitude of curiosity and acceptance of both internal experiences and experiences with others. In doing so, the factors that are preventing healthy interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships are removed to allow greater gift of self.
I have come to see relationship as a key factor in helping clients to flourish. Whether that is a child growing in relationship with their parents and peers through play therapy, couples and family members developing greater love and understanding for each other, or even an individual cultivating a healthy relationship with their own thoughts and feelings I seek to cultivate an attitude of curiosity and acceptance of both internal experiences and experiences with others. In doing so, the factors that are preventing healthy interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships are removed to allow greater gift of self.
(703) 686-8246 View (703) 686-8246
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BeyondtheCouch,LLC
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20190
Not accepting new clients
I work with individuals (adolescents 13+ and adults) to identify strengths and resources to conquer personal stumbling blocks. I assist couples and families who are struggling with strained relationships to develop skills that result in understanding the underlying issues, effective communication, and an establishment of healthy boundaries. At Beyond the Couch, clients will be equipped with a strong set of skills and solutions to deal with life’s challenges in a healthy and productive manner that can be incorporated in their everyday life.
I work with individuals (adolescents 13+ and adults) to identify strengths and resources to conquer personal stumbling blocks. I assist couples and families who are struggling with strained relationships to develop skills that result in understanding the underlying issues, effective communication, and an establishment of healthy boundaries. At Beyond the Couch, clients will be equipped with a strong set of skills and solutions to deal with life’s challenges in a healthy and productive manner that can be incorporated in their everyday life.
(352) 320-1012 View (352) 320-1012
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Ellie Hoptman Moran
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MEd
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20191  (Online Only)
I am a licensed professional counselor with a specialty in child/adolescence, emerging adults, and family counseling. I also provide parent coaching and individual therapy. I have worked with issues including depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, self-harming, mood disorders, personality disorders, couples issues, family system issues, life adjustments, grief and loss, ADHD, and more. I have worked with adoption issues, divorce difficulties, and many different types of families and parenting. I enjoy collaborating with my clients to help understand their individual needs and working towards their personal goals.
I am a licensed professional counselor with a specialty in child/adolescence, emerging adults, and family counseling. I also provide parent coaching and individual therapy. I have worked with issues including depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, self-harming, mood disorders, personality disorders, couples issues, family system issues, life adjustments, grief and loss, ADHD, and more. I have worked with adoption issues, divorce difficulties, and many different types of families and parenting. I enjoy collaborating with my clients to help understand their individual needs and working towards their personal goals.
(434) 226-5529 View (434) 226-5529
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Madelyn B Schrader
Licensed Professional Counselor, RN, LPC, LPC(S)
Verified Verified
Reston, VA 20190
I work with individuals, couples and groups.
In each of us there is a drive to move towards wholeness. Sometimes we require assistance to unblock that which slows our movement towards balance. Engaging in therapy is a sign of resilience in the face of personal struggles. Courage is walking through your fears to make a difference. By engaging in a strong and empathetic relationship, we will work to uncover the motivations and thoughts that are preventing you from living your life to the fullest. I educate my clients to utilize innovative strategies that capture the extraordinary power that comes from within to facilitate the changes you seek.
I work with individuals, couples and groups.
In each of us there is a drive to move towards wholeness. Sometimes we require assistance to unblock that which slows our movement towards balance. Engaging in therapy is a sign of resilience in the face of personal struggles. Courage is walking through your fears to make a difference. By engaging in a strong and empathetic relationship, we will work to uncover the motivations and thoughts that are preventing you from living your life to the fullest. I educate my clients to utilize innovative strategies that capture the extraordinary power that comes from within to facilitate the changes you seek.
(703) 957-7157 View (703) 957-7157
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Leslie Stelljes Nanson
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
14 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20191  (Online Only)
Do you ever struggle to feel peace in your relationships? Is it hard for you to embrace your whole self and feel a deep sense of worthiness? Would you like to be able to connect to others more freely? Helping people understand themselves is my passion, and I am grateful every day that I can work with people to find meaning and purpose in their lives. My specialty is creating secure relationships, and I maintain long-term relationships with many of my clients. Starting therapy can be intimidating, but I am dedicated to building collaborative, nonjudgemental relationships with the people I work with.
Do you ever struggle to feel peace in your relationships? Is it hard for you to embrace your whole self and feel a deep sense of worthiness? Would you like to be able to connect to others more freely? Helping people understand themselves is my passion, and I am grateful every day that I can work with people to find meaning and purpose in their lives. My specialty is creating secure relationships, and I maintain long-term relationships with many of my clients. Starting therapy can be intimidating, but I am dedicated to building collaborative, nonjudgemental relationships with the people I work with.
(571) 506-0816 View (571) 506-0816
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Ailish R Dermody
Resident in Counseling, MA, NCC, CGP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Reston, VA 20190
I work from a trauma-informed and attachment-focused approach with clients experiencing grief and loss, relationship issues, trauma, anxiety, and depression.
We can all find ourselves overwhelmed by the expectations put on us by others and ourselves. Often our past experiences may have us repeating patterns and cycles in our relationships that don’t serve us and it can be easy to try to ignore our problems or stuff our feelings only to find they're coming out sideways. To cope, we may engage in behaviors that prevent us from being the best version of ourselves. Often difficult life transitions put us in a state of upheaval, leaving us feeling hopeless, anxious, or depressed. I'd like to help you navigate these challenges.
I work from a trauma-informed and attachment-focused approach with clients experiencing grief and loss, relationship issues, trauma, anxiety, and depression.
We can all find ourselves overwhelmed by the expectations put on us by others and ourselves. Often our past experiences may have us repeating patterns and cycles in our relationships that don’t serve us and it can be easy to try to ignore our problems or stuff our feelings only to find they're coming out sideways. To cope, we may engage in behaviors that prevent us from being the best version of ourselves. Often difficult life transitions put us in a state of upheaval, leaving us feeling hopeless, anxious, or depressed. I'd like to help you navigate these challenges.
(571) 462-6494 View (571) 462-6494
Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.